Your Love Hate Relationships
Yes, you love her but there are so many things you hate/or dislike immensely about her/him.
The way she talks and never listens makes you angry. Your love hate relationships are trying; they are difficult to manage.
The way he always has an opinion opposite your thoughts drives you mad. The way he plays the devil’s advocate in most conversations bringing about times of argument and frustration is just crazy.
She knows about everything; whether she does or not and you cannot take it anymore. She tells you what you should think.
Your love hate relationships are very apparent and you are not at peace.
He repeats himself too often, continually, all the time.
She gets her way and is a challenging high maintenance friend, but for reasons that defy honest friendship reciprocation,whether family or otherwise, you have love for her/him.
I do not agree with hate in any form, but there are times I have caught myself saying quietly under my breath, “I hate the way you are, I cannot listen to your incessant mindless pointless opinions.” These thoughts are stressful but are often an outlet of relief because the person is difficult to spend quality time with on most days. Though the angry words were inaudible, our emotions make us feel deeply and we speak honest thoughts. After the words are said we often feel guilty or sad.
When your love turns to hate there may not be a glimmer of hope for the relationship. At times, you must walk away before the situation is beyond repair, and sometimes nothing works. Patience in the highest form is called for in those circumstances. Hate accompanies jealousy, anger or insecurity much of the time.
Love comes softly at times and quickly at other times. Hate also, can build and for most people, hate is not an instant reaction to other individuals. Hate is such a nasty destructive word. Try to leave it behind; never allow it to enter your vocabulary or your thinking.
Hate is strong and negative. Love is hope and light. Be positive.
When thoughts of hate rise up in you – instantly turn it totally around into something good. Try, practice and use positive words and influences.
1. There is no place for hate in this world; it never blooms into acceptance and peace. Sadness, war, cruel words and actions follow rapidly.
2. Everyone can choose to show and offer more love; it always blooms into purity and beauty.
Take time to make a list of lovely ideas that you can give to someone who needs a better outlook on life.
Love hate relationships are sometimes difficult to avoid but I find that thinking in ‘loving ways’ helps me so much.
Below is a tall order directly for our hearts:
I Cor. 13:4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
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