Questioning choices in life is inevitable. Dwelling in regret, indecision and doubt does not work. Being defined as someone who lives in the past isn’t fun. If you continually look back and say, “I should have – if only I had…” you are not progressing or showing gratitude..
I have a friend who always looks back but is progressively attempting to always be thankful for the present. I do tire of the conversations of her decisions and what life would have looked like had she made different choices. We cannot dwell there. That time is past. Move on.
Decide that from today and forward you will look ahead, not behind you. Do not dwell in the past.
Choices in life are made with good intentions at decision time. If you could go back and change them, you might decide in a very different way. We cannot go back; only forward.
There are people who engaged in addictive habits who continually look back at the problems they caused in their lives. If you are one of these people, make it as right as possible, forgive yourself and move on.
Look forward to the exciting journey ahead. There are adventures that you have not experienced. There are happy moments and joy jumping hours that you will possibly miss if you keep looking back. Do not miss them; you will certainly regret losing those beautiful times.
We are all entitled to reminisce. We are all entitled to wonder fleetingly if our lives would have been happier, healthier or more adventuresome if we had chosen a different lifestyle. We might have enjoyed more travel, visited the world or become more educated if we had chosen different paths. Would your mate have been the same? Would your life have moved into other regions or other opportunities?
Don’t stay there. Be careful about talking about the past. You are in the present bound for the future. You have many roads to travel and excitement waiting.
Think about what you would have missed about your life now. I would have missed the quieter energy of summer days in the country. I would have missed the unbelievable smells of autumn nature as it falls. Being surrounded by so much nature instead of concrete streets and loud noises, unfamiliar smells and unknown people is no match to the peace where I live. I have learned to be more grateful everyday. I have acquired a taste for retreating to home to write or relax quickly when I finish my walk or my lunch. It’s so easy to get from one place to another. I can walk one quarter of a mile back to my woods retreat to hear and smell nature; to view the 1800’s graveyard and watch the Blue Herons stand stately by the pond. I glimpse a deer or two now and then unless they hear me first. I hear them run away. The grand old trees are hundreds of years old. The young saplings and protected by the ancients. I feel safe and strong there too. It’s nature at its most lovely. I could not find that on a busy city street.
I have desires that I wish I could maximize in my locale. There are thoughts of exciting day trips I’d love to take. Sometimes they are just too far away for the day. There are friends who live at a great distance that prohibits our being in each other’s presence. But, there are always experiences to look forward to. There is always something to be thankful for.
Be happy, excited and curious. You’ll be rewarded wherever you are. Bloom
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